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This turns out to be my first post on a blog.The topic i have chosen didnt really come all of a sudden.It comes as a result of gradual accumulation of different opinions formed in mind by observing people in so called "love"(both in reel and real life) and also the speed at which people enter into relationships.
As many say,"love" as the present generation sees it isnt really Love.The great writers and authors of medevial period have defined Love in a different way as compared to the present trend and perception.We've even had Shakespeare saying in a comic mood(for a change from drama) saying,
"Love is Beautiful,Wonderful and Amazing.You feel its the best thing in the world,until it happens to your daughter" .
But then it is said that "Culture evolves with the generation and that society should adapt itself to the changes".But,normally the speed of acceptance by the older generation falls behind the speed of change.(Commonly known as Generation Gap)
Now,the question is "Is it true that whatever is being percevied by people as love isnt actually Love or has the modern defintion of love changed?"
Lets try answering the question:-
After thinking upon this topic for a few days,I had come up with a theory(which holds good for Indian Scenario as i could only observe and think on this part)which might partially answer the question.
Consider the old days when Ladies were practically not allowed to go out of their houses.But as time progressed,they gradually started coming out.Nevertheless,there wasnt a big change in the picture because the social rules didnt practically allow any conversations between Males and Females of the same age group.
Again as time passed,people started to find ways to overcome the obstacles of the socail rules.(this is quite natural in any system in nature)People started meeting secretly and some of them could eventually progress while others couldnt go ahead with it due to family reasons.
At the same time i would like to clarify that not every person was involved in such activities.A certain section of people where familes were a little less conservative which lead to a little non-conservative thinking in the person would result in such things.(which is sometimes even true in present world).
So what happens is people would very rarely find time to meet and talk.This way, inter-gender communication was quite less frequent and was slow.It would take months or even years to know a person properly.Hence entering into relationships was a rather slow process then.And they say that this kind of approach is advisable as you gradually come to know about the other person.You slowly understand the person,cherish the good things in them,digest the undesirable qualities.(and as process is slow,its usually not very rough)
Now Lets take the case of present world:-
Here lets assume that the two people in the study are completely new to each other in the beginning.
Many Pscychologists and experts believe that Cinema and Novels have a deep impact in one's mind in this regard(and the former has a much more impact than the latter as it creates a more clear picture and opinion in our minds).
And to be honest,I am also of the same opinion and in some cases have even seen it happenning practically infront of my eyes.
To add to this effect is the coincidence of this period with "The Era Of Communication".(and Thanks also to the really expensive and low on substance Food Courts and Coffee Shops(With Really Catchy Taglines like"A Lot Can Happen Over Coffee"))
All this process needs is just a spark which comes in the form of just a single introductory meeting where the mobile numbers and e-mail addresses are exchanged.
And Then starts the curiousity stage(as they say the most exciting part of any relation is the beginning stage of it as you are curious to know new things about new people) where either of the two becomes more and more curious about the other.(in some cases both become curious and such a case i would personally call "The Lucky Pair").Now,contrary to the olden times,we neither have really strict socail rules nor lack of communication.Whats even better,who on earth cares if two people meet in food courts or Coffee Shops and keep talking for hours together.(Parents would have cared if only they knew the real location and intention of their children)
And here comes the best part,Chatting and SMS.While Chatting,a person involuntarily assumes that he/she isnt talking to another person but to a machine which wouldn't really mind the speed at which some really personal and private details are being revealed and discussed.(Imagine the same set of people new to each other and sitting on adjacent benches of a classroom.Would they even dare to raise any personal issue in the first 5 meetings or so?)
SMS,i feel should be given the first Nobel prize to a non-Human in the field of Communication enhancement.This Tool is so extensively used that people in two different places are in contact with each other even when lying on their beds ready to sleep at a very very low price.(In some cases next to free of cost)
Actually this is what SMS turns out to be:-
SMS=Chatting + Infinite Portability
So effectively what happens is people get to communicate so quickly they come to know too much about each other in a very little amount of time.
And the last line justifies the title of this post.The stage comes when one of the two comes up with probably the greatest line ever said or written on earth "I Love You",which in modern cases means "I(Express) LoveYou" because of the speed of the progress and the uncertainity in the line "I Love You".
So,Assuming Peace and Happiness as the highest priority,It'll Be Better if we differentiate between the two as "Love" And "Express Love" so that even classic praisers and critics of LOVE are happy as well as the modern generation is Happy.
Thats probably a little blunt ending,but then if a solid answer to such questions are found,the very basis of existence of Psychology is destroyed. :-P
This turns out to be my first post on a blog.The topic i have chosen didnt really come all of a sudden.It comes as a result of gradual accumulation of different opinions formed in mind by observing people in so called "love"(both in reel and real life) and also the speed at which people enter into relationships.
As many say,"love" as the present generation sees it isnt really Love.The great writers and authors of medevial period have defined Love in a different way as compared to the present trend and perception.We've even had Shakespeare saying in a comic mood(for a change from drama) saying,
"Love is Beautiful,Wonderful and Amazing.You feel its the best thing in the world,until it happens to your daughter" .
But then it is said that "Culture evolves with the generation and that society should adapt itself to the changes".But,normally the speed of acceptance by the older generation falls behind the speed of change.(Commonly known as Generation Gap)
Now,the question is "Is it true that whatever is being percevied by people as love isnt actually Love or has the modern defintion of love changed?"
Lets try answering the question:-
After thinking upon this topic for a few days,I had come up with a theory(which holds good for Indian Scenario as i could only observe and think on this part)which might partially answer the question.
Consider the old days when Ladies were practically not allowed to go out of their houses.But as time progressed,they gradually started coming out.Nevertheless,there wasnt a big change in the picture because the social rules didnt practically allow any conversations between Males and Females of the same age group.
Again as time passed,people started to find ways to overcome the obstacles of the socail rules.(this is quite natural in any system in nature)People started meeting secretly and some of them could eventually progress while others couldnt go ahead with it due to family reasons.
At the same time i would like to clarify that not every person was involved in such activities.A certain section of people where familes were a little less conservative which lead to a little non-conservative thinking in the person would result in such things.(which is sometimes even true in present world).
So what happens is people would very rarely find time to meet and talk.This way, inter-gender communication was quite less frequent and was slow.It would take months or even years to know a person properly.Hence entering into relationships was a rather slow process then.And they say that this kind of approach is advisable as you gradually come to know about the other person.You slowly understand the person,cherish the good things in them,digest the undesirable qualities.(and as process is slow,its usually not very rough)
Now Lets take the case of present world:-
Here lets assume that the two people in the study are completely new to each other in the beginning.
Many Pscychologists and experts believe that Cinema and Novels have a deep impact in one's mind in this regard(and the former has a much more impact than the latter as it creates a more clear picture and opinion in our minds).
And to be honest,I am also of the same opinion and in some cases have even seen it happenning practically infront of my eyes.
To add to this effect is the coincidence of this period with "The Era Of Communication".(and Thanks also to the really expensive and low on substance Food Courts and Coffee Shops(With Really Catchy Taglines like"A Lot Can Happen Over Coffee"))
All this process needs is just a spark which comes in the form of just a single introductory meeting where the mobile numbers and e-mail addresses are exchanged.
And Then starts the curiousity stage(as they say the most exciting part of any relation is the beginning stage of it as you are curious to know new things about new people) where either of the two becomes more and more curious about the other.(in some cases both become curious and such a case i would personally call "The Lucky Pair").Now,contrary to the olden times,we neither have really strict socail rules nor lack of communication.Whats even better,who on earth cares if two people meet in food courts or Coffee Shops and keep talking for hours together.(Parents would have cared if only they knew the real location and intention of their children)
And here comes the best part,Chatting and SMS.While Chatting,a person involuntarily assumes that he/she isnt talking to another person but to a machine which wouldn't really mind the speed at which some really personal and private details are being revealed and discussed.(Imagine the same set of people new to each other and sitting on adjacent benches of a classroom.Would they even dare to raise any personal issue in the first 5 meetings or so?)
SMS,i feel should be given the first Nobel prize to a non-Human in the field of Communication enhancement.This Tool is so extensively used that people in two different places are in contact with each other even when lying on their beds ready to sleep at a very very low price.(In some cases next to free of cost)
Actually this is what SMS turns out to be:-
SMS=Chatting + Infinite Portability
So effectively what happens is people get to communicate so quickly they come to know too much about each other in a very little amount of time.
And the last line justifies the title of this post.The stage comes when one of the two comes up with probably the greatest line ever said or written on earth "I Love You",which in modern cases means "I(Express) LoveYou" because of the speed of the progress and the uncertainity in the line "I Love You".
So,Assuming Peace and Happiness as the highest priority,It'll Be Better if we differentiate between the two as "Love" And "Express Love" so that even classic praisers and critics of LOVE are happy as well as the modern generation is Happy.
Thats probably a little blunt ending,but then if a solid answer to such questions are found,the very basis of existence of Psychology is destroyed. :-P
